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I would have taken her phone too!

Dallas dad not guilty for taking tween daughter’s phone

Read the above link first… or here is summary:

12 year old Daughter visits dad, daughter sends friend a rude/inappropriate text, dad sees text and takes away phone as punishment, daughter cries to mother, mother calls police to retrieve phone, father refuses to give police phone, father is charged with theft and over 2 years later found not guilty, father “loses” daughter. Notable mentions: mother is married to cop. According to mother, Father was not “in” daughters life until she was 7.

Now my reaction/response to what I read in this article (and others, I read 8-10 articles on this story, to get as many “sides” as possible). There is likely more to this story, but from what I read, this is my opinion.

Quotes from the linked article:

1. “As a mom, I’m upset because — number one — the property belongs to me,” (mother)
– You stupid twat, you should be upset because, number one, your 12 year old daughter is sending inappropriate texts!!! Act like a parent, NOT a childish C*&% who cares more about a phone and vengeance than her own child.

2. “You can’t take someone’s property, regardless if you’re a parent or not,” (mother)
-Oh yes you fucking can! Let me tell you, I would have done the exact same thing! Daughter sending or posting inappropriate things, buh-bye phone, as well as all other electronics!! No more computer access, tablet, whatever, all gone until things are worked out and cleared up(could be later that day, could be next month)! Now in MY case, I pay for ALL of my daughters things, but even if the deadbeat was paying for her phone, I would still take it! And hypothetically, if he were in her life, I would expect him to do the same!

3. “At that point, I decided the police don’t interfere with my ability to parent my daughter,” (father)
– GOOD!!! Unless you are abusing or neglecting your daughter, the police should stay the fuck out of it.

4. “During the two-day trial, Jackson’s daughter, now 15, took the stand and testified about her father taking her phone.
“It was the last thing as a mother I wanted my daughter to go through,” Steppe says. “I’m always here for my kids.””
– If this was in fact the last thing you wanted your daughter to go through, YOU would NOT HAVE PUT HER THROUGH IT!!!!

5. “officers made several unsuccessful attempts to return the property to its owner.”
– You may not get this from the article, but what they mean is the officers made several attempts to retrieve the phone from the father.
Ideally the mother should have phoned, visited or emailed the father directly (or vice versa), and discussed the incident like responsible parents, but instead she simply called the police to retrieve her phone!  There is a good chance the daughter would have gotten her phone back after it being taken away for a week or 2, as that is what punishments typically are, but instead of just waiting a week or talking to the father, the mother instantly called the police. The mother is obviously a vindictive moron who has done this out of spite! She doesn’t actually care about the phone (or her daughter) she just wanted to “hurt” the father. I am not condoning him not returning the phone, this may had ended much sooner if he had, but he had a right to “punish” his daughter and the police should NEVER had been called.

6. “Jackson says the ordeal has permanently ended any chances to have a relationship with his daughter”. (father)
– I hate to say it, but some of it is his fault. Yes I believe, in this situation (In my opinion), that the mother is mostly to blame as she seems to be malicious, but had the father simply given the phone to police this may have not been blown so much out of proportion … or would it? Would she simply have found another reason to eliminate him from the daughters life…?

So Good, I am glad he was found not guilty! I am glad he stood his ground, although, in the end, it cost him a relationship with his daughter. Someday, I hope the daughter grows up to realize that her father was simply trying to teach her a lesson in his own senseless, stubborn way, where-as the mother was being a hateful trouble maker. The mother should be charged for wasting so much of the courts time and resources.

End opinion … they are both idiots.

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I eat the Fucking end crust so no one else has to.

I give and give and give and give and no one gives 2 flying fucks. I do everything in my  power to keep everyone happy, yet what the fuck does anyone do for me? Am I being selfish? Perhaps, but perhaps I am allowed to be for once. It gets tiring always being the “giver”.

My daughter gets pretty fucking much everything she wants. I clothe her with the brand name shit. I keep her housed. I feed her, I go out of my way to keep her happy. I go with out so much so that she can have everything. She has pink this and brandy that. Sorel this and Lulu Lemon that. School sweaters, music lessons, drives everywhere. I cook her dinner every night. I make her lunches every day. I pick up after her. I do her laundry. I pay for a bus pass so she can go to the (out of our district) school she wants. She has her own room with a beautiful and expensive bed set (captains bed, night table and computer desk). Electronics up the ying yang… Ipod, tablet, Cell phone, her own computer (times 2!). I could go on and on about what I give to her. I spoil her not only with stuff but with lots of love and nurturing as well. I give her more than enough attention. I stay awake when I am exhausted so I can tuck her in every single night. I make sure to get up with her every morning as she gets ready for school. I spend an abundance of my time with her. I hug and kiss her, snuggle on the couch with her (when she allows it… or wants something)  and tell her I love her every time I feel it ( which is a lot). I let her know she is smart and beautiful. I teach her life lessons and manners. I scold/discipline her when necessary. I talk to her. I love her.

My Boyfriend is just as fucking spoiled. I cook his dinner every night. Make his lunches. I go without, for him. I clean his dirty dishes. I make sure things are quiet at bedtime because he gets up early for work. I do his fucking laundry. I let him do his stuff (playing his video games, building his computers, hang out with friends, etc) without bitching or nagging. I spoil him. We don’t fight … but we don’t really “communicate” much either (we don’t really communicate emotionally, partially my fault, but there have been a couple times in which I tried, and got nothing).

What do they do for me? He buys me stuff sometimes or pays for dinners out and takes the garbage out if I purposely leave it until it piles up or stinks. Every few months he gets an urge to Vacuum…. She occasionally doesn’t have a fucking tween attitude and will occasionally do a chore without being told…. twice (in a year) they made an attempt to clean the house. Don’t get me wrong, or consider me hypocritical here, when they do anything, I thank them and very much appreciate it. But it is so very rare ….

And it is not “just” them. I do for so many and very very few ever even thank me. I don’t expect much in return; respect and appreciation. But it seems the more I do, the more I get shit on … hmm, couple sisters fall into that category drastically. Actually I have only 1 sister that is appreciative or so it seems, I haven’t had the chance to do much for her until recently. At least she said Thank you.  Work at my last job (which I was recently laid off from and have not discussed in my blog as of yet) was just as bad. The shit I did for that company. Bringing in new clients, taking over an EXTRA full position with no change in title or pay raise, finding money losing errors in pricing, doing shit that was no where near my job, the list goes on and on. I am always a listening ear for anyone (and there are many) who wants to talk or vent or confide. I have secrets hidden about people that would make your ancestors roll over in their grave. But I sit and listen and offer advice if requested … no one does this for me … that is only partially true actually … my 2 BFF’s “would”, except that one has no phone and the other one doesn’t answer his. but they would let me talk and cry…and I really need to. Also My mother let’s me vent … but then she starts trying to decipher everything and “diagnose” me or start changing the subject and gets me all worked up about something else … it gets on my nerves sometimes … but  at least she lets me vent.

Over the years, I have developed into a kind and caring woman (despite the fact that some still think of me as the cold hearted bitch I was as a teenager (ish) …that was a lifetime ago (20ish years) I am a different person now and the morons who continuously insinuate that I am still “that” person need to grow up a little (or a LOT) themselves (same sisters fall deeply into this category too). Yes, I can still be a super bitch if you mess with my family or are an ignorant fuckface, but I really don’t like it). A few people have helped me over the years when I have been down and out or struggling and I repay those favours by helping others. I pride myself on doing a bare minimum of 1 good deed per day (often plenty more) and I don’t announce what I have done, I don’t brag about what a great person I am, I just keep believing that Good Karma will be on my side … but nope, nothing good is happening. Karma seems to hate me and my good deeds or any kindness I portray. Maybe I was better off as in my earlier years (late teens/early 20’s) when I was a fucking bitch. Maybe I should become that Perma-Bitch again….

Do Not piss me off

Anyway, back on topic, Someone needs to do something for me or I will fucking quit it all. I love to give, but the ungratefulness and inappreciativeness is too much!!! Do your own god-damn laundry. Buy your own shit. Get your own dinner and prepare your own lunch.  Do your own dirty ass un-rinsed dishes. Clean your own mess. Deal with your own shit! Pay me properly for the job I do. How well do you think that would go over? I am simply tired of feeling walked all over and unappreciated!!!

So what do I want? I am not trying to be selfish or greedy. I want to be appreciated. I want to know that people are grateful for things I do for them. Let me take a day off and someone else do the dishes (fully, not just a few and then leave the rest for me to do!). Someone else do (All of) the laundry. Everyone pick up their own shit… and maybe mine once in a blue moon. I don’t need material things. You don’t need to buy me anything. A caring note, a handmade thank you card, a genuine thank you, an afternoon out for a walk or coffee and a chat, that day off I mentioned, a hug with an “I appreciate you”, Acknowledge that I do so much for you, Something. Merely Something.

It is not even 10 am and my “boss” has already walked past my office peering in 9 times

In Reference to JobCCC

Bird-dog

You should probably know that on days when this moron is in our local office it ruins my day (He supposedly works out of an office in another city, but seems to be here more often than not lately). His mere presence makes me sick to my stomach and makes me want to do very mean and violent things. I really dislike this man, both as a manager and as a person! This man is an imbecile, inconsiderate, impolite, and insulting.

Let me tell you a couple of stories about this idiot.

  1. Earlier in the year I missed a total of 10 days within 4 months due to illnesses. Colds, flus, bronchitis, and food poisoning (I think). I was catching everything going around and then some. it seemed as though my immune system (which isn’t that great to begin with) was completely shot. I was basically sick for those 4 months non-stop. I came into work most days feeling half dead and only missed the days where I could not function. My old “good” manager, We shall name him Goodman 😉 , was concerned about my health. He did not fuss about my missed days because he saw me coming in actually sick. This too goes for the District Manager, now known as DM. They both continually asked me how I was feeling, Do I think I should go home, and wished me well. They were concerned about my missed time, but seemed more concerned about me finding out what was wrong and getting better. Then in March my manager, Goodman, got laid off and we got a new manager. Let us call him Bird-Dogger … I have many other names I call him, but, this is the nicest one I could think of to “suit” him… So Bird-Dogger, on our first meeting, came into my office sat in a chair and without saying hello, how are you, or anything polite said “You miss too much time. You are not to miss anymore days without a doctors note.” As I was about to explain/speak, He cut me off and moved to another topic, Which was the fact that he knows nothing about actuation. Yea he admitted this. He then proceeded to DEMAND that I CC him on pretty much every email I send out to every person. I don’t, unless it is necessary. He was rude, completely ignorant and on a power trip. I was “not allowed” to say anything. He cut me off every time I tried to speak. When he was finished with his demands, he then got up and walked out of my office. I would just like to add that we could have had this pretty much same conversation in a much more pleasant way. Due to his demeanour, I very much disliked him from this very moment. (I mentioned to Brown-Noser (my direct supervisor) a few days later in confidence, that I can not talk to Bird-Dogger because he doesn’t “allow” it… shortly after this, is when Bird-Dogger started ignoring me completely …. coincidence? Doubtful.)
  2. When he comes to our office, he walks up and down the halls what seems to be every 15-20 minutes (maybe every 30). He peers into every office. Our day starts at 8 am and is finished at 4:30 pm. You can be sure that at somewhere between 8 and 8:10 as well as 4:20 and 4:30, on EVERYDAY that he is here, he walks by each office to (I assume) make sure everyone is here. After having this annoy and disturb me for months, I now shut my door when he is here. He is too much of a distraction.
  3. I am pretty sure he tried to have my job eliminated. Bird-Dogger tried to bypass me in our quote process. The way he went about it led me to believe he was trying to prove my position (and by default, ME) was unnecessary. Basically he tried to skip me in the process, but it just caused a lot of mess and confusion and still kept coming back to me, proving I will not be so easily removed. Ass. I specifically told him, after this project was completed and privately (but by email), that “Please in future to avoid this confusion, have these sent directly to me only and I will request assistance as required” (This could be why he dislikes me. I stand up for myself, my job and to him)
  4. He speaks to EVERYONE else, despite my trying to be “nice”. Bird-Dogger shows up to our local office, he will make his initial rounds. I can hear him coming, stopping at LITERALLY every office along the way, making small talk with all the other employees. When he gets to my office, he skips over it and stops at the next one (Not that I mind … I detest him, but it is the point of the matter, a manager should NEVER make an employee feel this uncomfortable). Out of curiosity (and partially spite), I have cheered out a “Good Morning!” a couple of times as he walks by and he out-right ignores me, UNLESS someone else is near. then he will mutter good morning back, but nothing more. I have tried to make small talk, I have tried to “be nice”, but he ignores me and/or brushes me off. This moron is not worth the time it takes to say “Good Morning” So I do not anymore, I just shut my door. (Note that this morning I forgot to shut it, but after his 9th time walking by in 2 hours, I got up and shut it)douche work

Just knowing this douche-bag is here scrutinizing, makes it difficult to do my work. I cannot concentrate properly and I cannot function accurately. I am constantly thinking, “when the hell is he going home?” Every time I look at his caustic face, it causes me utter disgust, irritation and rage. Shutting my door helps a little as I do not have to watch him saunter by my office over and over and over.

Sadly, we are moving in a few months to a new office. Pretty much everyone will have a cubicle. I will not like this. How will I cope with having that creep gawk at me anytime he feels the urge to “Bird-Dog”. How will I endure having his repugnant voice in hearing range at all times. How will I adapt with his loathsome self present with no door to shut him out.

I abhor this man. If I won a huge lottery … say $50 Million … I would pay Bird-Doggers manager (DM) a million fricking dollars to FIRE his ass. Not “lay – off”, not a position change, out right fired. I am dead serious. I feel that strongly. I have no use for his Bad “I am in charge” attitude, his offensive presence and what I hesitantly call Bullying.

Until March 10, 2015, I loved my job at JobCCC.

Why March 10th? This is when the big company changes occurred at JobCCC. You see, A lot of people in our company were let go, as was the case with many oil and gas companies this year. (Side note I work for a valve and actuation company and work with the actuation product line.) My Manager was let go.  My Manager was awesome. He was knowledgeable (due in part to 30 years with the company). He was respectful. He was open and had an open door. He asked for things, always. never said “Do this!” and ” Do that!” He praised when praise was earned and criticized when needed.  He assisted the best he could and “had my back”. He was a leader. HE was a GOOD manager! Sometimes I make him sound like fricking superman, but that is because I respected him as both a manager and a person. Sure he had his faults, for example, he wouldn’t let me get nasty and/or spiteful with asshole customers. haha, damn him. 😉 ….. My new Manager … is kind of a jerk (this is me being very nice about how I feel about the new manager). The new manager pushes for “openness” and then doesn’t let you say a word. If you try to discuss ANYTHING with him he “butts in” and will not let you talk, and continues to do so until you either give up and clam up or forget what you were trying to say. He Disagrees with everything I (and most others) say. Never praises…anyone. He Micro-manages and “bird-dogs”. He always be-littles staff and makes demands as opposed to just asking or at least being polite about it. … and he appointed the biggest rat/suck-up in the office as the office supervisor.

So the line of succession used to be: District Manager – Good Manager – Myself … Now it is: District Manager – Bad Manager – Tattle-tale Brown noser Supervisor – Myself … makes sense doesn’t it? 2 negatives equal a positive?? only if you are in math class and only if you are multiplying …or dividing … or … well you get the point.

The … New Manager (and most of the ignorant “plant” staff) seem to think I do nothing but deal with 1 distributor … wait what! Really?? why would there even be a position for dealing with 1 distributor who only gets stock orders 1-2 times per year purchasing just this 1 product … What the F#@$!?  Others seem to think I have so much spare time on my hands that I can do this and do that and ooohh hey … do some of this too, even though none of these are related to my job at all, and some of them are that persons job. Most of the time I think it is pure laziness… too lazy to do their own job, too lazy to find the correct person, too lazy to search Google, too lazy to even search through their own email for a document that was sent to them MULTIPLE times!

So…

I was hired as (basically to sum it up) an assistant to the “actuation guy”, let’s call him K for simplicity, and time permitting to help out on the valve side. Basically I was to assist with quotes, a bit of technical support and occasionally sales entry.

This all changed when K left (just 3 months after I started. Keep in mind that K was the ONLY person in Canada (within our company) who knew anything about this product line … on the Sales, planning, pricing, inventory and technical side (to name a few) [other than an engineer…who is of course very technical only … sales, pricing etc. are like Greek to him]) I was left with the responsibility of handling that product for Canada and it was either sink or swim… I swam. I swam hard and struggled. I am still trying to swim and am still struggling.

I am currently the only inside sales / Tech support for this product in Canada This puts a lot of pressure on me, I am lucky to have 1 person (an engineer who knows the product from an engineering side) in our plant  for help, advice and more advanced technical knowledge. In all honesty, sometimes he seems to be the ONLY person able and willing to assist and advise me (on the Canada side). But overall, I am it. There is minimal assistance out there for me (there is likely a lot, but no one willing) which has added to my struggle with my position. But I do it. I learned about 80% of my job on my own.  K left and I had NO-ONE to teach me. As previously mentioned – sink or swim.

My positions with all I do in no particular order include but are not limited to:

Customer Service

Quotes Person

Order Entry

Expediter

Document Control

Technical support

Safety/HSE Personnel

Each one of these can be and is a full time job, (seriously, we have a whole document control department! We have people dedicated to doing just quotes, we have project managers who’s main job is expediting! …you get the point) but I manage them all!

I picked up this position with no change in title, no pay raise to accommodate the massive amount of extra work, tasks, positions and “fights” I had taken on. I picked up this position with no one to “teach” me how to do it, and little to no assistance from my co-workers. But I did it. I stepped up to the plate, I took on the responsibility and I loved it! I loved the pressure. I loved the challenge. I loved the independence and self-teachings. I did it, assuming that my commitment, reliability, hard work and dependability (etc) would be noticed and eventually pay off. My old manager noticed … but he is gone now.

**Please note that I am not trying to compare my job to yours. I am just simply venting, and doing some complaining. I am entitled to some complaining now and then…When you go from loving your job to hating it passionately within a day … some venting and complaining is necessary.